New Year New Me? Biggest lie I tell myself every year. It’s a new year but why should I become a new person? It’s actually funny how many years I’ve said this same phrase, but nothing has changed. I start the year sticking to all my new years resolutions for a month or so and start thinking wow this might be the year where things are different. Then old habits start to kick in and everything goes back to how I was before… Realistically I can only blame myself because I’m selling myself the dream of this new better version of me being so much better than the old me but in reality I am exactly the same person.
I recently saw a tweet that really resonated with me “Most new year’s resolutions don’t even last 3 weeks. It takes 3 consistent weeks to form a habit, start now rather than January 1st.” Consistency forms habits. It’s quite simple really the more you do something for a long period of time the easier it will be to become a part of your lifestyle. I don’t want to be cliché and tell you to stop waiting for the new year to come, for you to start your resolutions but it’s true the earlier you start the better. It’s like a warmup so when the 1st January comes, you’ll find it so much easier, your resolutions will pretty much become routine.
Earlier this year I wrote the blog ‘I’m Sure I Have Talent’ discussing my self-doubt and how great my year is going to be (If you haven’t read that you know what to do!). So, I guess it’s only fitting that I write this end of year blog evaluating my year. One word to sum up 2019? Average. Don’t get me wrong there’s been some great highlights, passing my driving test and completing my placement year being honourable mentions. But I just feel like I’m capable of so much more, I know I’m not the only one that thinks the same thing. You can be working hard, and things can be going your way but there’s always that feeling that you could be doing more to improve yourself. But I think the thing I’ve realised is 365 days isn’t that long at all. Deep it, the lifespan for a human is 80 years old, am I expecting to reach all my life goals within 1 year of those 80 years? So, I guess the main lesson I’ve learnt this year is the things I am working towards aren’t necessarily going to be achieved within a year, they might take 5, 10 or even 20 years to reach the heights I’m trying to reach. I’ve now started setting different time frames for the goals and targets I’m aiming for, from daily goals all the way up to life goals. No point in limiting myself to yearly goals.
If there’s one thing I really want you to take from this post it’s, you’re fine as you are. You don’t need to start the year as a new person so please don’t make the same mistake as me and say the phrase
New Year New Me. In regards to 2019, whether you’ve had a great year or a bad year, end the year on a high note as I said in my ‘I’m Sure I Have Talent’ post; “At the end of the year once everything is done have a big celebration and look at how much you’ve grown in the space of a year.” We all deserve to treat ourselves every once in a while, especially when we deserve it.
The Real Talk Team